Lolita

Thesna Aston
3 min readJan 11, 2024

“Ain’t no little girl “fast” enough to catch a grown man.” -Unknown

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T.W. Sexual Abuse

Lolita is a novel written by Russian author Vladimir Nabokov in 1955. It tells the story of a man who becomes obsessed with a 12-year-old little girl and begins a “sexual relationship” with her after becoming her stepfather. You will notice I placed sexual relationships in commas because regardless of how a child molester tries to convince themselves otherwise, a child cannot give consent when they barely understand the meaning of the word “consent.”

Lolita, in the novel, is simply about a pedophile who groomed the mom of this child and after “submitting” to his vile fantasies and continually sexually abusing her, the blame is placed on Lolita for enticing him. It is concerning that school girls are fetishized and fantasized about. Look at how much the porn industry caters to this sexual fantasy.

The glamorization of this book has led to a society that thinks little girls “asked” for it. It gives child molesters a free pass, perhaps because they don’t feel as if they alone are depraved, or they found their “tribe”- kind of like, “If I am not alone, then I can’t be wrong.”

The problem is our society readily accepts that little girls somehow have the sexual knowledge and the seduction skills to change a man into a predatory monster. These little girls possess skills that not even their moms have. Sadly, it would seem that mothers, grandmothers and aunts have fallen for this violent, disgusting narrative.

History is fraught with little girls beaten by their moms for “seducing” their boyfriends or husbands. Little girls are portrayed as evil because their skirt is thigh level, their lips are luscious, and their breasts are sending out silent invitations to be touched by these predators. Our society is 100% wrong when they view these beautiful girl children on the brink of womanhood, being damaged by monsters, as the perpetrators.

Natural curiosity about nudity gets twisted into “She wanted it!” Those men belong in prison, but so too does the mother, grandmother or aunty, who places the blame of abuse on the victim.

“She’s mature for her age!”

“She isn’t as innocent as she looks!”

“She’s fast!”

All of the above, and more is said to justify abuse, and it’s wrong.

A grown-ass man who isn’t interested in little girls from the get-go would be seduced by these “dangerous” little girls.

A grown-ass man would explain to the little girl why she should not walk around in her underwear (if she did that)

A grown-ass man would try to find out if there is a problem or notify the relevant authorities. They would look for a reason to explain the girl’s behavior.

A grown-ass man CANNOT be seduced by a look in a little girl’s eyes unless he is a predator.

A grown-ass woman will NEVER accuse her child of any wrongdoing when she discovers the abuse.

A grown-ass woman will NEVER be jealous of a child (biological or not) if the child opens up about the abuse.

Too many women have joined in on this violence to “save” their relationships and marriages.

The only one that needs saving is the little girl, being blamed for things she often doesn’t have the mental capacity to comprehend.

Lolita exists only as a fantasy for predators.

When it happened to me at 13 years old, people I trusted never believed me because my aunt chose to side with her husband. She told me not to take life so seriously cause he was only “playing” around. The other aunt blamed me for wearing a skimpy top and bought me a bra so it would not happen again.

Can we stop “believing” husbands, boyfriends, etc. and start believing our daughters?

We need to do better by our children.

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Thesna Aston

Writer-The complexities of life are simplified through my Writing. Wellness Coach, Human Rights Activist. Grateful for my life and family. Writing is healing