Great article, Blackthelma. 🙏🏾

I'm sorry for the hurt and pain you went through, Elizabeth. Here is where there's a problem. I could ask the same question but change it with a Black woman and a white partner. I know of a few who have stayed because they chose not to be "that," Black person who thought life would be better with a white partner, only to find it wasn't. The problem is that Black people are judged as a collective and white people as individuals, lending credence to the myth that Black people, especially Black men are inherently violent. Those men are abusers irrespective of the colour of their skin and should be seen that way and treated accordingly. The world is filled with interracial couples (myself included) who are happy and in love, but racism comes into play whenever society sees a Black man merely glancing at a white woman and paying for that glance by being killed or jailed. It's the reason Karens are so "popular," and visible now.

The power dynamics remain skewed in favour of white people, but that does not mean Black men cannot and are not violent, but that we as a society should view it as individual acts of violence and not "Black men are violent."

In closing, your safety is of paramount importance and that's what you should see to, no matter how society judges you. I would say the same to anyone in an abusive relationship.

Take care. 🙏🏾